FOR most people, cheating is the ultimate deal-breaker in a relationship – and something lots of couples can't come back from.
But according to sexpert Nadia Bokody, infidelity is just a "natural" human instinct.
In her News.au column, Nadia wrote: "Our desire to have sex with people other than our spouse is as innate as the urge to breathe."
Instead of breaking up the second someone cheats, she claims we should all take a "softer approach" and see infidelity as a "fracture not beyond repair".
Speaking from experience, the sexpert revealed that she has once cheated in a previous relationship and was targeted by trolls when she spoke about it online.
Although she doesn't regret her infidelity, Nadia wrote: "It exerted immeasurable agony on my partner and eradicated the trust that had blossomed over the course of our relationship."
What's more, Nadia references a 2014 study which concluded that infidelity is among the top reasons couples get divorced and claimed cheating was no worse than emotional neglect, an unequal division of domestic labour or a lack of sex life.
Insisting that cheating is natural but "not acceptable," she added: "Shame and venom reserved especially for those of us who lapse in moral judgment has historically done very little to dissuade people from embarking on affairs, and it’s illogical."
Discussing her own experience, she continued: "Several years on – while I still wish I could go back and undo the pain those few moments of selfish passion caused – I no longer carry the shame I held onto, years after the relationship dissolved.
Our desire to have sex with people other than our spouse is as innate as the urge to breathe
"Not because I think cheating is OK (I don’t), but because I don’t believe it’s an offence worthy of a lifetime of punishment."
Earlier this month, Nadia revealed five most-common lies women tell in bed – including being impressed with the size of their bloke's manhood.
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And this mum and dad hilariously mistook a vibrator for face massager and said it feels like ‘something is licking them’.
Plus this woman says her sex life is still great despite sleeping in separate room from husband for years as she doesn’t like ‘sharing’.
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