‘I’m the only female left in the family’: Carrie Grant reveals all three of her children who were born girls now identify as trans or non-binary – and says she ‘took time to grieve the loss of her daughters’
- Carrie and David Grant have four children, three of whom are non-binary/trans
- None of Carrie’s children taken cross-sex hormones, though they may in future
- Broadcaster admits to misgendering her kids but she ‘apologises and moves on’
Carrie Grant has revealed she is the ‘only female left in the family’ after all three of her children who were born as females came out as non-binary or trans.
The London-based broadcaster, 56, has four children with husband David Grant – three of whom do not identify as the gender they were assigned at birth.
The Fame Academy coach is supportive of her children, saying she took time to ‘grieve’ after discovering that she ‘doesn’t have daughters anymore’ before ‘moving on’.
Speaking to The Sunday Times, Carrie said none of her children have taken cross-sex hormones, though they may in future, but she is keen for them to ‘keep their non-binary status a bit longer’ while considering options.
London-based broadcaster Carrie Grant, 56, has four kids with husband David Grant – three of whom do not identify as the gender they were assigned at birth (Carrie is pictured with the three of her kids who were born as female as children)
Pictured, Carrie, Olive, Hollyoaks star Tylan and David after the Fame Academy coach received an MBE in 2019
Carrie said: ‘At the end of last year there was a moment of me thinking ‘Oh, I do not have any daughters any more’.
‘As a mum I always wanted daughters. I am the only female left in the family. I managed to think, ‘OK, I need to grieve that and move on”.
The oldest of the couple’s children is Olive Gray, 26, who is non-binary and uses they/them pronouns, while their 15-year-old Arlo identifies as non-binary or a demigirl.
Demigirl is a term describing someone who was assigned female at birth but does not fully identify with being a woman.
Hollyoaks star Tylan, 19, (left) who is the first autistic actor to portray an autistic character in the Channel 4 soap, came out as non-binary last year, changing their name and pronouns on Instagram this April
Hollyoaks star Tylan, 19, who is the first autistic actor to portray an autistic character in the Channel 4 soap, came out as non-binary last year, changing their name and pronouns on Instagram this April.
In December, they said coming out as non-binary was both their ‘biggest achievement’ of 2020 and one of the ‘biggest transitions in my life’.
The mother admitted that while she occasionally misgenders her children, she quickly apologises and ‘moves on’, adding that all of kids ‘hate’ their previous names.
The couple first rose to fame in the early 2000s as judges on Fame Academy and Pop Idol, as well as working as vocal coaches for many years, while David, 65, won an army of fans as a member of the 1980s funk group Linx
In December, Tylan said coming out as non-binary was both their ‘biggest achievement’ of 2020 and one of the ‘biggest transitions in my life’. They are pictured on Lorraine in 2018
Meanwhile Carrie also said Olive, Tylan and Arlo have all spoke to therapists but have not committed to hormone therapy yet – with Carrie insisting the family will obtain ‘as much information as we can’ before making a decision.
Long-term side effects of hormone or puberty blockers in children with gender dysphoria are UNKNOWN
Little is known about the long-term side effects of hormone or puberty blockers in children with gender dysphoria.
Although the Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) advises this is a physically reversible treatment if stopped, it is not known what the psychological effects may be.
It’s also not known whether hormone blockers affect the development of the teenage brain or children’s bones. Side effects may also include hot flushes, fatigue and mood alterations.
From the age of 16, teenagers who’ve been on hormone blockers for at least 12 months may be given cross-sex hormones, also known as gender-affirming hormones.
These hormones cause some irreversible changes, such as breast development and breaking or deepening of the voice.
Long-term cross-sex hormone treatment may cause temporary or even permanent infertility.
She revealed Olive is not keen to have the therapy, while Tylan has been considering the option.
Yet she said she wants her children to look at potential ‘pitfalls’ of the medical treatment.
The mother-of-three said that while she will always listen to her children’s desires, she wants them to consider ‘highly complex and potentially lifelong’ consequences of treatment.
She explained her preference would be the children remaining as non-binary for a while before making a decision.
Carrie and David first rose to fame in the early 2000s as judges on Fame Academy and Pop Idol, as well as working as vocal coaches for many years, while David, 65, won an army of fans as a member of the 1980s funk group Linx.
All of the couple’s children suffer from various behavioural disorders and in a previous interview for Hello! magazine, Carrie revealed the struggles of raising a family with complex needs.
Olive suffers from Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and dyspraxia, while Tylan has Aspergers and dyscalculia.
Arlo is also autistic and has ADHD, while their youngest child Nathan – adopted from the age of two – has ADHD.
She told that at one point her son’s unpredictable behaviour forced him to move schools after being ostracised by the other parents.
Speaking about her family Carrie said: ‘When we’re together, it can be the most wonderful madness where we’re laughing and bouncing off each other.
‘Or we’re having to deal with behavioural issues because one or more of the children are kicking off.
‘Or one or more is in a really low place and you’re talking them round, giving them the will to live.’
‘It makes all those people who don’t fit in think. ‘I’d fit in there.”’
Why did the NHS let me change sex? Keira Bell tells her story in the hope that it will ‘serve as a warning to others’
IT engineer Miss Bell is pictured outside the Royal Courts of Justice in London in January
In an interview earlier this year, Keira told the Daily Mail what happened to her, in order to highlight her plight and, she says, serve as a warning to others.
Keira was brought up in Hertfordshire, with two younger sisters, by her single mother, as her parents had divorced. Her father, who served in the U.S. military in Britain and has since settled here, lived a few miles away.
She was always a tomboy, she said. She did not like wearing skirts, and can still vividly remember two occasions when she was forced by her family to go out in a dress.
She told the Daily Mail: ‘At 14, I was pitched a question by my mother, about me being such a tomboy. She asked me if I was a lesbian, so I said no. She asked me if I wanted to be a boy and I said no, too.’
But the question set Keira thinking that she might be what was then called transsexual, and today is known as transgender.
‘The idea was disgusting to me,’ she tells me. ‘Wanting to change sex was not glorified as it is now. It was still relatively unknown. Yet the idea stuck in my mind and it didn’t go away.’
Keira’s road to the invasive treatment she blames for blighting her life, began after she started to persistently play truant at school. An odd one out, she insisted on wearing trousers — most female pupils there chose skirts — and rarely had friends of either sex.
When she continually refused to turn up at class as a result of bullying, she was referred to a therapist.
She told him of her thoughts that she wanted to be a boy.
Very soon, she was referred to her local doctor who, in turn, sent her to the child and adolescent mental health service (CAMHS) near her home. From there, because of her belief that she was born in the wrong body, she was given treatment at the Tavistock
Keira had entered puberty and her periods had begun. ‘The Tavistock gave me hormone blockers to stop my female development. It was like turning off a tap,’ she says.
‘I had symptoms similar to the menopause when a woman’s hormones drop. I had hot flushes, I found it difficult to sleep, my sex drive disappeared. I was given calcium tablets because my bones weakened.’
Keira claims she was not warned by the Tavistock therapists of the dreadful symptoms ahead.
Her breasts, which she had been binding with a cloth she bought from a transgender internet site, did not instantly disappear. ‘I was in nowhere land,’ she says.
Yet back she went to the Tavistock, where tests were run to see if she was ready for the next stage of her treatment after nearly a year on blockers.
A few months later, she noticed the first wispy hairs growing on her chin. At last something was happening. Keira was pleased.
She was referred to the Gender Identity Clinic in West London, which treats adults planning to change sex.
After getting two ‘opinions’ from experts there, she was sent to a hospital in Brighton, East Sussex, for a double mastectomy, aged 20.
By now, she had a full beard, her sex drive returned, and her voice was deep.
After her breasts were removed, she began to have doubts about becoming a boy.
Despite her doubts, she pressed on. She changed her name and sex on her driving licence and birth certificate, calling herself Quincy (after musician Quincy Jones) as she liked the sound of it. She also altered her name by deed poll, and got a government-authorised Gender Recognition Certificate making her officially male.
In January last year, soon after her 22nd birthday, she had her final testosterone injection.
But, after years of having hormones pumped into your body, the clock is not easily turned back. It is true that her periods returned and she slowly began to regain a more feminine figure around her hips. Yet her beard still grows.
‘I don’t know if I will ever really look like a woman again,’ she said. ‘I feel I was a guinea pig at the Tavistock, and I don’t think anyone knows what will happen to my body in the future.’
Even the question of whether she will be able to have children is in doubt.
She has started buying women’s clothes and using female toilets again, but says: ‘I worry about it every time in case women think I am a man. I get nervous. I have short hair but I am growing it and, perhaps, that will make a difference.’
By law she is male, and she faces the bureaucratic nightmare of changing official paperwork back to say she is female.
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